Emotional Wounds - Eat the Candy, Toss the Wrapper

Have you ever had one of those delectable single pieces of chocolate, no more than a large bite, costing about a buck?

To eat that wonderful chocolate, you unwrap the paper and pop the chocolate in your mouth. Mmmmm, a moment of absolute delight.

And the wrapper... what do you do with the wrapper? Stick it in your pocket to throw out later, put it in a trashcan, toss it on the floor when no one is looking?

Whatever you do with it, I bet you don't have a box where you carefully keep all your candy papers so you can carefully pick up each one of them and remember the event on a daily basis.

Events in your life, no matter what they are, can be learning experiences. The problem is that if you keep dissecting the event every which way, you will miss the nugget of wealth within.

A major problem as a therapist is a client who identifies him or herself with the wounding event so much s/he doesn't want to move on. S/he refuses to get past what happened and discover the kernel of learning within.

Think of what you learn as the candy. The trappings that hold the knowledge is the wrapper. Eat the candy... incorporate the knowledge... and throw out the wrapper... the event that brought the learning.

There is always more candy. If you get stuck looking at the wrapper s of all the candy of the past, you are overwhelmed with cellophane, tin foil, paper and miss the delectable treat within.

Letting go the wrappers of the learnings... the painful events of life... can be difficult. There seems to be something inside some people that want to hold onto the past with all their might. You will achieve tremendous freedom if you will treat the painful things in life as candy wrappers. Just toss them out.

Continually reviewing the painful event, deepens the wound. The same feelings of hurt are strengthened. It makes it more difficult to let go of the past.

The key healing is to manage your thoughts, to quit running the movie in your mind. The best way to do this is to have something else to think about. It doesn't matter if it is another event or the multiplication tables. Just occupy your thoughts with something else.

When you turn off the movie you can discover what you learned.

The wisdom and knowledge within each happening of life is the gift.

Cathy Chapman, Ph.D., LCSW is a licensed clinical social worker assisting people achieve their dreams of health, wealth and abundance through Mind-Body Psychology. She works from a spiritual and energetic model employing BodyTalk and Psych-K to balance the body and change beliefs.

by Cathy Chapman, PhD, LCSW -

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